Helping Loved Ones to Help
A supportive family can be one of the major factors in keeping students in
college. Financial support can be part of that, but time and place factors
can be even more important.
Time to study, the expectation that you will study, and some quiet can all
help. During midterm and finals weeks, you may need even more time, more
logistical help in order to maximize your study time.
Here are some specific suggestions based on the experiences of other students:
- Some toddlers and pre-schoolers can sit next to Mommy with their own
drawing materials, though some will insist on sitting on Mommy's lap and whacking
the keyboard. Other youngsters (and some spouses) will not understand
at all why Mommy can't be
tuned in to them all the waking hours, so Mommy will only get to
study when the kids nap or sleep or other family members fill in as
- With some family and friends, you can barter study time for time to do
things together, such as "Let me have an hour to study now because this
is due (or overdue), and in an hour we'll work on your bike" or "I
can go with you tonight to the movie, but I need to get back right
afterwards to finish my studying" or even "I have to get this done
before our vacation, so could you please start (do) the packing?"
- Many students not only re-negotiate family responsibilities during the
course, especially during midterm and final weeks, but they also may decrease work
hours or even use vacation time or leave time to catch up.
- If half of students who enroll in college do not graduate, something stops
them from getting a degree. At community colleges, only about 2-4% of
the enrolled students graduate in any one year because many students take
only enough courses to get themselves employed or promoted. (For some
programs, the graduation figures are much higher.)
If you're leaving college because you've met your
academic goals, be proud. If you're leaving college because you
couldn't say "no" (or at least "not now") to friends who
wanted to go out drinking or family who want you to visit, don't feel
bad for meeting social responsibilities. But resolve to get your
education anyway next semester.
- Online courses can be flexible, but you may have to trade off one chore